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What holds us back?

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Regular readers of this site will recognise references to creating our own reality. For most people this is a massive stretch, but for many who stay with me here, perhaps less so. I wish I could say I live totally wedded to this idea, but there are many times I struggle with it. So I would like to explore why any of us would have a problem with manifesting the kind of life we could have only dreamed about. What follows presupposes we are powerful beyond measure and do indeed create everything in our lives.

  • Deserving.

How many times have you read about people who win large sums on the lottery and the net result is devastating. Of course for some it will be a miracle but maybe for the majority this good fortune can turn into a nightmare. Do you really think you deserve all the good things in life? And what really matters to you? Material abundance, good health, satisfying and rewarding work, exceptional relationships? How many of these can you truly manifest?

Most reading this will have heard of the law of attraction, and unfortunately in its early days the focus was on material things, and a good number may be disillusioned when the Ferrari didn’t show up.

It may be obvious that if we feel we don’t deserve a wonderful life we are placing a massive obstacle in the path of realisation.

And closely related to this is the idea that to have or acquire anything of real value we must work for it. Things should not come easy. It’s certainly very difficult to be physically fit without putting in the effort! It even could be argued that this is congruent with the whole idea of manifestation. To manifest requires work, requires effort and requires discipline.

  • Manipulation.

For me the most challenging. NLP is a tool that enables unscrupulous people to manipulate others. My almost exclusive use of NLP has been to help people, through psychotherapy. The idea that I could manipulate relationships for example leaves me feeling cold. However I’ve read enough lately to realise that we cannot manipulate anyone at a distance who doesn’t want to get closer or to enhance friendships without their agreement. We all have sovereign free will and will not embark on any path without wanting it. Despite knowing this, I’m still a little shaky.

  • Beliefs.

It’s all about beliefs. You’ve heard the classic quote from Henry Ford, “whether you believe you can or you can’t you’re right.” Our whole life experiences, whether or not we go the whole hog with creating our reality, are based on what we believe. You can include here socialisation, how much we have bought into a material view of the world and how much we subscribe to the mainstream view that most of us are just a bunch of “useless eaters.”

It is difficult to separate deserving and beliefs out because each influences the other, as does manipulation. And if we suffer any kind of serious emotional pain it will impact on the status quo.

  • Change.

Most of my life has been spent experiencing, learning and teaching some kind of personal change. There are times I just want to be me. Of course it begs the question who am I anyway? I also know from speaking to clients and friends that such is the power of the mainstream, of collective consciousness and these days, algorithms we have to pay attention to our own truths daily. I don’t know where I would be if I didn’t read so much and watch inspiring speakers and teachers on the Internet. Clearly I am not in the majority, and these days am free from financial pressures. Even when I wasn’t and had to earn a living, my living was to teach personal development, personal change and healing.

Whilst no one’s life is easy (is it?), the path described here certainly isn’t. So we may be back to the basics of stick and carrot, pain and pleasure and even- God forbid- what’s in it for me just to kick-start it all. And for those of us who are dedicated to service, this is a personal act.

  • The massive, incredible incentive.

Whether or not your focus is on yourself, your friends and family or even humanity could you rest easily if you did nothing despite knowing that to pursue this path consciously can help everyone? And with all things there are shades of grey. Whilst it is possible to change in an instant (read again the passage on deserving), it may take time to move from a “programmed” mind-set to one which may seem incredible.

And I’ve just been watching Carolyn Myss on Gaia TV.  I’ve followed Carolyn for a long time and rate her very highly. The programme was about self-esteem, another major theme of these blog posts. She made a hugely significant point. Decades of personal development and awakening have contributed to the empowerment of many people. And with that empowerment comes responsibility and we (most certainly me!) have at times struggled to come to terms with our newfound perspective and heightened abilities. Just the realisation that you can lift someone up with a word and put them down with a word is very challenging. Of course it is more than true, language affects DNA.

  • The death of Woke?

I find it difficult these days when I meet my friends not have a conversation about the insanity that is Woke. The obsession with our biological space suits, what colour they are, what kind of bits are hanging off them, and the interminable search for new victims completely and utterly eclipses any discussion of character.

“I have a dream my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the colour of their skin but by content of their character.”

Martin Luther King

We should all stand up to this nonsense (thank you Laurence Fox and Douglas Murray) or at the very least satirise it (thank you Andrew Doyle).

Of course this captures the essence of this post. When we are all empowered and are all creating our own realities are there ones that dominate or are there nearly 8 billion realities? We might all be connected but we are unique, so there are 8 billion realities. And before the irresistible descent into madness in trying to track and understand all this, if your world is created with love, and is from love then the “consensus reality” will be something truly incredible. And I can let go completely of any more discussion of “Woke.”

We are richly blessed. Love to you all, Jack Stewart, January 31st, 2020.

Love Heals

Love HealsMaslowsHierarchyOfNeeds.svg_ This I know. And so do you. Out of the 40 healing “modalities” I have experienced, learned and taught over the past 30 years the one that stands out, the Healing Code, is based on it.

The Healing Code works because of the transformational power of unconditional love. Naturally there are many other modalities which work on the same principle. And of course we have endless testimonies from renowned spiritual teachers to the same end:

“A thought transfixed me; for the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth-that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire.”

Dr Viktor Frankl

Few people have greater credentials for making such a statement than Dr Frankl, the Austrian psychiatrist who survived Auschwitz, Dachau and Thereseinstadt. If you haven’t read Man’s Search for Meaning let accessing a copy be the first thing you do after reading this post.

We can ask ourselves “What is love?” We can (I have, see To Love and Be Loved) explore the Greeks six different varieties of love and indulge ourselves in all kinds of analysis. Dr Gary Chapman (The Language of Love) talks about five love “languages” as ways to express love to those close to us. Whilst there is a verbal component to all of them, only one (Words of Affirmation) emphasises talk as opposed to the four others which are all actions.

It doesn’t take a Non-Terrestrial to realise that the world and all sentient beings are crying out for love. And as this post is about what you can do, as opposed to tackling the negative global forces of the matrix head-on, consider this:

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

Rumi

How many of us can honestly say that they love themselves? Rumi touches upon the barriers we all have when it comes to loving other people. And what is it about loving a higher power, an avatar, God, Source?

Loving another person in an intimate relationship runs the risk that it may all end in tears and for many people that risk is not one they are willing to take. What is it, apart from perhaps “failed” past relationships that has/have installed this “programme?”

The energy of love can be retained by water; plants thrive on it as do companion animals, and in truth all sentient beings.

“The mystery of human existence lies in not just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.”

Fyodor Dostoevsky

Some of you may remember or be familiar with Maslow’s hierarchy of human needs. At the top of his pyramid lies the self-actualised being. See the diagram (top left) for more.

Maybe it is a goal for you to become self-actualised, or to educate or evolve your soul, or to serve or just have a happy and fulfilled life. Can you become self-actualised without having the “lower” needs met? Maslow suggests not. But we all know (include me) those of us who when in love can ignore the bottom two and have all the inspiration they need to propel them to the top. There is much discussion about the merits of Maslow’s theory so I will leave that with you to explore.

Wayne Dyer in his excellent book, I Can See Clearly Now, talks about our existential needs for challenge and nurture. In my worldview, I can take on just about any challenge if I am loved. And if I am loved I am nurtured. And taking on challenges leaves me open to “failure.” And that “failure” may be very painful. Love Heals.

Wasn’t the primary message of Jesus (and no doubt many other avatars about whom I must plead ignorance) that we should love each other? Most of you, if not all of you, will know how unforgiveness and resentment can ruin lives.

I’ll close this post with this rather telling story from chapter 41 of Wayne Dyer’s above book:

“During the course of our many counselling sessions together, Suzi Kaufman related that her young son Raun, previously diagnosed with infantile autism, was completely unreachable… Autism experts from all around the world declared: ‘It is incurable. He is unreachable. We don’t know why, and there is nothing that can be done.’

Suzi and husband Barry hired students and trained them in a method they created, essentially to surround Raun with unconditional love in a contained, safe environment. For 24 hours a day, seven days a week, for months on end, Raun was the recipient of continual loving responses.

In 1976 Barry went on to write a book called Son Rise, which detailed the entire process they developed and how they were ultimately able to see Raun come back to them and leave his diagnosis of ‘incurable’ behind.”

Many of you will have your own stories. Love Heals. Love is Action. It is a learned behaviour. It will change the world.

Any takers?

Namaste, Jack Stewart, 29 January 2020.

The Language of Love

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Or perhaps more specifically, The Five Love Languages.

“At the heart of mankind’s existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another.”

Gary Chapman

Apparently research suggests that the feeling of being “in love” lasts for an average of two years. Most of you know the feeling, euphoria, single focus, obsessiveness… Then the work begins. The title of a wonderful book I read many years ago captures this perfectly “After the Ecstasy, the Laundry.”

Maybe the work begins sooner than you think.

One of the fundamentals of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), irrespective of the primary focus of this post is Rapport. Except by coercive, manipulative means, the only way we can truly influence another is by being in rapport with them. Being in rapport with someone requires you to pay attention to how the other person communicates. Like everything in life, some people do this effortlessly and don’t require courses or textbooks. However it is almost certain they do this by having had exceptional role models, whether parents, siblings or teachers. Simply because we live in a world that emphasises difference, competition and these days, through the truly appalling identity politics nonsense, rapport has taken a backseat.

Politically we are probably miles apart, but I do admire Douglas Murray. I watched a video of him and Andrew Doyle in conversation about the contemporary plague of Wokeness. There was so much to admire, but the thing that truly resonated with me, and with the audience they were speaking to, was his comment about forgiveness. Social justice warriors, woke zealots and the misguided set off to destroy the careers of anyone guilty of even a “micro-aggression.”Aren’t we all capable of saying something which offends someone else? If we do that in a deliberate, hurtful and unacceptable way then bring on the condemnation. However the targets of the zealots don’t get away so easily. What Murray was saying is we are all capable of speaking “isms” unintentionally and if so can we not ever be forgiven? A voice of compassion and sanity.

It must be obvious therefore that waiting, poised for someone to “speak out of turn” is the antithesis of rapport. Back to the post.

Chapman’s book, which I would strongly recommend, is the result of his 20 years of experience as a marriage guidance counsellor. It is not a book just focused on marriage as I’ve already said; it is about relationships and ultimately how we get along with each other in this beautiful but testing world.

Chapman talks about the “love tank.” Our (emotional) love tank is filled by an intimate, but it may also be filled by our parents, our friends, companion animals and even audiences. It surely doesn’t need much of an explanation. If our parents love us and are able to show it our childhood will be mostly experienced with a full tank. We will also learn how to communicate with other people and probably be intuitively aware of Chapman’s five languages. When in a conscious relationship, each party will be served by the other filling their love tank. Again it doesn’t take a genius to realise when one or both of the parties have a low or empty love tank too often the relationship may be in peril. Of course again it may be obvious that we are not naturally aware (given the caveat previously referred to) of how our partner “speaks”. For the rest of the article I’m going to refer to intimate relationships but you can apply these principles to any kind of relationship, especially parenting.

It shouldn’t need saying but it surely does. Love is both a choice and an action. Before, during and after the euphoria even simple things like buying your partner flowers is a choice. Being unaware of their emotional needs is a choice. Persisting with your approach when it clearly isn’t working is also a choice.

If I had one reason for writing this post apart from wishing to promote a very useful and effective set of ideas, it is that for people to get on with each other. The introduction of insights and intelligence is often all it needs. Many of us, especially men, think we are all good drivers, good lovers and good conversationalists by default. There is not a single person on the planet, no-one, who is “naturally” good at everything. And to repeat those who do excel have often, mostly in fact, access to brilliant role models. Reflect on your own role models and avoid any condemnation as they were doing their best. I’ll steer clear of the temptation of doing a hit piece on the truly unimaginably appalling contemporary role models of popular culture. You know who I mean. You can’t escape them.

And again, before you roll your eyes in exasperation, all of us do make “wrong” choices. By applying the lessons from this post guarantees nothing except improved communications with others. However if you have a reasonable degree of compatibility and love each other enough, this is for you.

You will all know what it feels like to have a “full tank.” Or even a nearly full one. Cue the song The Wind Beneath My Wings.” Speaking personally, if I have that, I feel I could conquer the world. As I reflect on what is emerging in this piece a stark realisation has just popped up. How many people in this world are running on empty? If love is the greatest (healing) force in the universe, is the global epidemic of chronic illness any surprise? We human beings are incredibly resilient. We can run on empty for years, “topping ourselves up” with hyperactivity, distractions and maybe worst of all rationalisations that lives of quiet desperation (not mine guv) are OK. And maybe it is another reason why we may become desperate for someone to merely partly fill our love tank because that is all we deserve. Or we may just give up.

Chapman’s five languages:

  1. Words of affirmation
  2. Quality time
  3. Receiving gifts
  4. Acts of service
  5. Physical touch

The first one, words of affirmation goes beyond saying “I love you.” It is about complimenting and acknowledging your partner for who they are (self-worth) and what they do (self-esteem). Value them verbally for their being in the world and being your partner. Value them for what they do.

Quality time should be obvious, and again it is more than a trip to the cinema. Included in the quality time must be quality conversations, quality communication and all kinds of intimacy.

Receiving gifts? Yes it includes the obvious, flowers, presents of all kinds, weekends away et cetera. The thoughtful amongst you will realise the gifts needn’t be expensive. And do I need to say it? Yes you do need to be grateful and graceful if your partner enjoys giving you gifts.

For some people, even the simplest act like washing dishes, hanging out washing or changing a nappy are welcome acts of service. And isn’t it easy to ignore or play down these apparently mundane tasks when it comes to the language of love?

I’m sure the last one, physical touch, requires the least comment. The only caveat here is that sexual intimacy may not be as significant or influential as hugs, holding hands or caressing.

If you want to go any deeper than I am doing here buy the book. We all have a primary love language and a secondary one. And many of us will “speak” our own preferences to our partners. In other words if we favour words of affirmation, that is the most likely way in which we will “speak” to our partner. Isn’t it obvious if our partner’s preference is for physical touch or any of the other three (quality time, receiving gifts or acts of service) then the chances are we will not be filling their love tank.

How do you discover your primary language? Reflect, consider how you respond or have responded to other people or- God forbid- ask them.

So, probably the third statement of the bl****** obvious, find out which love language (s) your partner favours and use it/them. And if they don’t know yours, the same applies.

The world needs rapport. You need to be in rapport with yourself, in rapport with others and in rapport with all positive unseen forces which operate on you.

One of the most significant things I have learned over many years is that there is far more we share with others than that which divides us. Oneness. And I have learned that behaviours in others which are mostly trivial but can be irritating or annoying are a million miles away from forgiveness and unconditional love.

It has been said 1000 times but it can never be said enough, love is all you need, and as my current exemplar is the poet Rumi, let him close this post:

“Love so needs to love that it will endure almost anything, even abuse, just to flicker for a moment. But the sky’s mouth is kind, its song will never hurt you, for I sing those words.”

Thank you David Miskimin for this recommendation. You walk your talk. Namaste. Jack Stewart, Monday, 20 January 2020. No music here, sing your own song!

P.S. Why the book picture above which isn’t Chapman’s? The late, lamented Stephen Levine is a master of this genre.

What will be your legacy, now?

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“Your task is not to seek for love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

Rumi

As I write this, part of me feels some kind of trepidation as I would like at least another 20 years here on the earth plane so talking about my legacy may be somewhat premature…. However my aspiration, something which informs and has informed my actions for a long time is captured in my favourite song, “Just Pass It On” by the late Joe Cocker. Listen to the complete song at the end. Here are some of the lyrics:

I’ll be praying,

I’ll be praying that the best will come your way.
And when it comes, that’s going to make my day.
I’ll be praying.

To say I’m completely selfless would be outrageous and untrue but few songs move me like this one. I know where the seed was sown; it was from my adoptive parents. They passed on so much to me, so it was only a matter of time before I followed their example. I am extremely fortunate and blessed to have met and spent my life with those who subscribe to this “paradigm.”

Examples of those who also subscribe to this are all around us. Despite the best efforts of the mainstream I strongly suspect a sizeable minority (the majority?) of the global population buys into this. Few things seem to move us more than heroic, selfless acts of courage and bravery. However such adrenaline rushes are not that common, what I’m talking about is the dedication of those who serve. Feel free to interpret the word “serve” anywhere you wish.

Yes there are many who get paid to serve but I have met and worked alongside enough people who would do it for nothing if they were financially secure enough to do so. Which leads me to another point. If everyone on the planet- it is affordable- were paid a living wage then passing it on would be the norm, it would be mainstream, it wouldn’t even be debated.

“When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all of your thoughts break their bonds. Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new and a great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties, and talents come alive. And you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dream yourself to be.”

Rumi

Most “personal development” approaches strongly endorse the self-reliance and self-love ideals. When you consider the personal development industry is overwhelmingly American, this should not surprise you. But readers of my previous blogs will know this leaves me cold.

I can’t be certain of an old story, but I’m sure it referred to a group of Hopi Indian children who when asked an individual question refused to answer rather than appear “superior” to their peers. And we know there are many indigenous people around the world with a similar mind-set. And whither “We Are All One”?

Yesterday I watched the film Unsinkable, and very good it is too. Again the emphasis on the individual is paramount.

As my new life comes together, more and more, the direction I wish to go in is becoming increasingly clear. I would like to think my legacy will be encourage others “to let go of the barriers” to love. My specialism for the last 15 years has been healing. Love is the greatest healer. When we find the right person, we have to commit 100% to making it work. We cannot find ourselves on our own.

The motivation for being healed is relatively clear cut. We wish to let go of the pain and we don’t want to die. The motivation for seeking “the one” is fraught with difficulty. Jumping in with those who are clearly disastrous for us (though they may appear the opposite at the beginning) may help us learn and grow but they increase the possibility of “hardening our hearts.” And when the person who has the potential to complete us comes along, s/he may find the challenge of breaking down the barriers too much. Or they may not.

Perhaps this will be my legacy.

Love and blessings to you all, Namaste. Jack Stewart, Tuesday, 14 January 2020.

“If we could take every child on earth at the age of five and have them meditate for one hour a week on compassion, we could eliminate all violence on our planet in one generation.”

Dalai Lama.

 

Outside there is beauty

gilbertMost weeks I go for a swim, followed by 10 minutes in the steam room then afterwards vegetarian breakfast at my favourite local cafe, Henry’s. There I read the Daily Mail, one of two newspapers owner Faruq has for his customers.

Good sports coverage, the occasional article of which I approve, the usual right-wing tub thumping but mostly, as with all newspapers, doom, gloom and ugliness.

Many years ago I used to read Positive News, an excellent newspaper which is still going. The Big Issue does so much good work. I would recommend both of these yet I am less inclined to them these days because both have bought into the climate change scam. So have many of my friends but I treat them no differently regardless.

If you want natural beauty, come to Malvern. The hills are world-famous. Worcestershire, Herefordshire and Gloucestershire are all beautiful counties; not for nothing are all three known for the quality of their fruits and vegetables. If you want man-made beauty visit the cathedrals of the same counties. They are magnificent. I could list dozens of places which would make your heart sing but it is easier and quicker for you to visit tourist information sites.

However unless you are Swampy (remember him?) most of us spend time inside offices and factories and our homes. If we are abundant (everyone is capable of this, I hope to do justice to the subject in forthcoming posts) then those homes may contain beautiful works of art and furniture. Those of us who have pets may describe them as beautiful.

Are you a people watcher? Go on, admit you sometimes find it puzzling to see an apparent mismatch between couples. What do I mean? Surely it is obvious. One half of the relationship has “let themselves go” and the other hasn’t. In these days of the utterly ludicrous “woke” culture we can no longer comment on a person’s physical attractiveness. No one’s worth can ever be defined by how they look. No one should be treated differently because of how they “turned out” at birth or became impaired through a disease or an accident. To do so is anathema to me.

However in relationships how people appear is important. No amount of pan-sexuality, screaming diversity zealots or “fat is beautiful” advocates will ever change that. There are huge swathes of popular culture (fashion, dating, talent shows, music to name just a few) where wokeness has had no impact whatsoever. Nor will it. Love this (Ricky Gervais).

And despite where this article appears to be going it makes my heart sing to see apparently mismatched people deeply in love with each other. And that I make a judgement about other people should have no negative consequences for them. Almost all of the time it boils down to a mental observation. My recent reading of spiritual literature suggests making judgements is harmful for the one making the judgement. Poetic justice.

Whether you like it or not much of what is defined as beautiful is a social construct. Travel the world, look back into history and you will find the celebration of beauty is not universally the same. My last post on this subject, Inside I Am Beautiful, focused on the beauty we all possess inside.

I can sum what I’m trying to say here very simply. We need beauty. We need it like the air we breathe. And it doesn’t matter what the manufactured consensus is, it matters that however you personally define beauty forms a large part of your life.

I despair for those who are denied it. I’m convinced environments (I know) of concrete and steel, desolation and punctuated by ugliness are severely harmful to health and motivation. Simply because it is such an important thing for me I have lost count of the number of references to intimacy in my writings. Of course one can be intimate with the natural world, intimate with a higher power and intimate with a book. I can’t be bothered to specifically define intimacy, surely everyone reading this knows when they have it.

Intimacy is a relationship with a thing or person of beauty. That relationship may be informed by how the thing or person of beauty looks, feels, sounds or relates. Or tastes or smells.

Time spent being intimate with beauty is surely the basis of life. Again my recent spiritual reading suggests we are here on the earth plane to be joyful and playful. Who does not have their spirits raised when they see animals at play, children at play, anyone at play? You don’t need to read spiritual books to know this.

A lapsed fascination for me was Joseph Campbell’s mantra “follow your bliss.” Following your bliss will make you joyful.

Whilst I don’t need to say it, I’m going to anyway. Few things in this life are more beautiful than sharing in or being partly responsible for another’s joy.

Maybe I’m well on the way to describing the nemesis (love that word for some reason) of a life of quiet desperation. Beauty, intimacy, play, bliss, joy. Love fuels all these of course and when we are not energised what could be better than peace?

If life gives you love, joy and peace then I would suggest you are more than well on your way to heaven on earth. And the last piece of spiritual wisdom I wish to comment upon is the claim that we have to be complete within ourselves. That we can “self partner” our way along the rocky road.

Well my friends, dear readers, not for me. I’ve made this clear many times. My soul’s evolution accelerates when in conversation with someone I find beautiful. Intimate conversation is more than possible, indeed it may proliferate, with friends. There are aspects of intimacy (no, sigh, I don’t mean sexual) one cannot have with friends. There are aspects of intimacy one cannot have with oneself.

I didn’t come “down here” to make this journey alone. Sorry Eleanor your life isn’t for me.

Beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, but it is also in the eye of the person who is beholden.

Love and blessings to you all, Jack Stewart, Thursday, 09 January 2020, a day of great significance.

Love was the Enemy (part two of Love is the Resistance)

Dont-be-satisfied-with-stories-how-400x600What gives us life on this planet? The sun. The sun has been demonised. The sun gives us cancer, “climate change”, and deserts. Bill Gates thinks we should block out the sun.

So, let us demonise the glue that holds us together, the substance of the universe, that which gives life, that which gives life meaning.

Without love there is nothing.

In the last post, Love is the Resistance, I listed seemingly endless ways in which life appears to give us a good kicking. I ended on the somewhat cryptic comment that from this moment onwards it needn’t be like that. It would be ridiculous to suggest that those who have had a somewhat loveless life can heal quicker than those who haven’t.

Or would it?

Over the years I have worked with some severely damaged people, and that damage is a polarising force. It can propel you towards wanting resolution and redemption so badly that the healer/therapist just has to find the right approach and the client does the rest. Equally, and I recall one person’s situation with great sadness, the damage can lead to a conclusion of total despair and disillusionment.

Cue the mantra. Anything can be healed, not everybody can be healed.

I suppose another way of looking at it, again simply because almost all revelations which serve humanity come from uniquely personal journeys, is what would life be like without love? Those of us for whatever reason have blocked love (or “hardened our hearts” to use Lorna Byrne’s profound phrase) where would we be in a totally loveless life? I think you all know the answer to that.

Love is essential as the air we breathe and our lack of it, to varying degrees, has impaired our lives. What can we do?

“Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.” –Anatole France

We can start by loving another sentient being.

I’m hearing the words now inside my head: “What happens if I’m not loved in return?” The obvious presupposition in this question is that your choice of who to love is random and conditional. We are back surely to a “lucky” and chance-ridden existence. Just suppose you had it within you to find even an animal who would love you back and more significantly a person with whom you could have a conscious, game-free relationship?

What would you rather believe? Are you prepared to make the effort?

(In order to keep my sanity I have to satirise the latest outpouring from “woke” culture. I suppose as we move inexorably towards merging with machines then sex with a metal vessel to heat food is not beyond the bounds of possibility. So how many of us will be embarking on a “pansexual” adventure to discover the secret of a soulmate’s genitals? Maybe paradoxically the inclusion of this apparent insanity reinforces the message that love as referred to here is nothing to do with sex….)

I could go on forever repeating the messages from just about all my previous blog posts. You will be spared that. So in summary let me say this:

  • Everyone is capable of loving and being loved
  • “The energy frequency of pure love heals anything” (Dr Ben Johnson)
  • You are neither a prisoner of your genes nor of your beliefs. Both can be changed almost effortlessly, but let me repeat the old joke about the light bulb. How many psychotherapists does it take to change a light bulb? One, but the bulb has to want to change.
  • You are powerful beyond belief (Diana)
  • Consciously (re) connect to a higher power
  • Put as much effort into making your life a masterpiece as you have into your work or career or all your projects
  • You are neither a victim or a patient, unless you have broken your leg…
  • Serve!
  • Take risks, follow your heart
  • Do what’s right; you know what is right!
  • Keep an open mind, be forever curious
  • Get help and support to release your past
  • Daily, weekly, regularly immerse yourself in beauty, positivity, knowledge and intimacy; let go of mainstream conditioning and negativity
  • Find appropriate role models, they abound

If you scroll back to most of my blog posts you will find references merely a click away.

I’ll leave you with this, love to you all and continue to have a wonderful New Year. If I can do it, you can do it, and therefore the world can do it. We are all one.

“Wherever you are, and whatever you do, be in love.”

Rumi

Jack Stewart, eternally inspired, December 5th 2020.

Postscript.

“You have a gigantic pool of information and experience to draw upon (from your simultaneous, not past lives), but this will be utilised according to your present conscious beliefs“.

Jane Roberts, Chapter 19, Seth Speaks, The Nature of Personal Reality, 1994.

Love is the Resistance

who makes all decisions for you?We are born, and then we die. Things happen in between. How we turn out is influenced by many things. How were we conceived? In love, lust, indifference, convenience or violence? What happened during our mother’s pregnancy?

When we were born did either parent, assuming both were present (which may not have been the case), exclaim “I wanted a girl/I wanted a boy” and the opposite happened? Were there complications, and what happened afterwards?

What genetic blueprint did our parents gift us? What cellular memory did we come with from our ancestors? Were the planets sympathetic to our birth and did we get dealt a good hand? Is there such a thing as karma or are we all powerful angelic beings who can call the shots?

Were our “natural” gifts of telepathy, “second sight”, curiosity and insight encouraged or denied? Were we abused?

Were we loved? Were you a mistake?

So, everything is solid. Logic rules. Our genes determine our disposition towards illness and misfortune during our lives. We can buck the system through hard work and a modicum of intelligence. We need luck. We need the breaks and the opportunities. Hopefully it all works out. When it doesn’t, when we are abandoned, betrayed, humiliated and shamed we either pick ourselves back up, carrying the damage for life (or work out a good coping strategy) or we allow ourselves to be crushed and we begin the slow steady decline. What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. What doesn’t kill us gives us a hidden psychological limp. We cope, we get by. Life isn’t bad except when it is.

And then we plan our funeral or an “accident” deprives us of that luxury.

We take steps to ensure our children get a better deal than we did. We invest much of ourselves in making sure they do. They rise to it, they flourish or they squander the opportunities, God forbid.

We nod, and pay lip service to the dreamers. We wonder why only the good die young. We watch, aghast, as the bastards win again. We grin and bear it because after all it’s only for life.

We carry on. By occupying ourselves with routines, work, chemical crutches and busyness we sail on, like the swan or the duck, seemingly gliding serenely but with our feet going 20 to the dozen. And yet despite all this we serve. We make a mark, and the world is infinitely better for our being in it. Some of us, paying attention to the splinter in our minds, are intrigued by the dreamers.

We realise, deep down, it is impossible to get through all this without love. But our own experience of love at a personal level colours everything we do.

Did our parents tell us we were loved? If they didn’t tell us, did they show it? Did our parents love each other? Were our parents some kind of anomaly? Was one parent, or no parents enough?

How did we learn to love? Is it ever too late to have a happy childhood?

To be continued. Clue to the answer to the last question. It is never too late.

Imagine. Have an absolutely wonderful, love-filled 2020. You are richly blessed.

Jack Stewart, January 3rd 2020.