I have always been interested in what makes people tick. So it was only a matter of time before I formally discovered psychology. My first degree was in accountancy and economics but it never grabbed me and I spent a fair amount of time in the University library reading psychology books.
Further academic study, endless short courses, a career change and a number of other influences led me to becoming a psychotherapist in 1995. Combine all this with a heavily developed rebellious streak and you have a recipe for exhortation. Even when I worked in professional sport (football, rugby league) for a short time I was staggered by the ignorance. Rubbing shoulders with world-class sportsmen was a fantastic privilege. In rugby league the players, especially the Australians, were so mentally sharp and open to the work I was doing it was exhilarating. But the lack of appreciation amongst the coaches and hierarchy of the game of how the mind made all the difference continued to amaze me.
Naturally almost every single one of my hundreds of psychotherapy clients were in varying states of distress simply because mentally they could not process what was happening to them. And before you ask this also covered a high proportion of people with physical illnesses. I have lost count of the number of people who had no idea that the loss of a parent, a spouse, a sibling, or a child could do and had done to their health. Similarly those who had been betrayed in adult relationships or had been abandoned or rejected as a child, or had been declared the wrong gender by a parent (“we wanted a boy…”) at birth never knew the effect it was having on them.
Leaving aside the weaponised politicisation of victimhood, i.e. Woke, which has nothing to do with the traumas I have listed above, the global ignorance of how we function as human beings is truly a pandemic.
Given what is happening in the world right now, those responsible know the effect this is going to have psychologically, which will in turn translate itself into physical illness and premature death. They know this. They know the devastation caused by social isolation and being deprived of everything that follows from that will reap a whirlwind which will make coronavirus seem like a welcome distraction. Before anyone becomes self-righteous just study the global seasonal flu statistics, deaths from suicide, deaths from hunger, and deaths from abortions. In this twisted, distorted but as ever actually and potentially beautiful world “seeing is believing.” You get sympathy with your broken leg. If you are depressed you can keep it hidden from all but the most perceptive.
Do your research, find out what happens when your immune system is compromised. Are you on top form during house arrest? Do you enjoy being isolated from those you normally spend time with? Do you prefer to stay in touch with people electronically or physically? I’m sure none of you miss going out for a coffee or a meal, or walking straight into a shop rather than queueing with the living dead. Don’t you love being told by some cretin that you shouldn’t wash your car, or go out more than twice a day whilst watching “normality” as portrayed in adverts?
I will be moving house soon and I’m going to start work again as a psychotherapist. Something tells me I won’t be short of clients. As with every “crisis” opportunities emerge. You will have to trust me when I say that this nightmare we are living through is the worst possible way of generating clients and opportunities. However it will soon become ragingly apparent, if it hasn’t done so already, that our focus of attention now needs to turn to the mental and emotional stress of this silent Holocaust.
Do all that you can to stay calm, to stay focused, to love and be loved. Draw upon your greatest reserves of mental strength to help yourself first and to help others. You are no use to anyone if you lose it. It is right we show appreciation for those on the frontline of this appalling state of affairs. And it is obvious many of the health and care workers are in need of psychological support themselves.
I’ve been waiting for a few years now to run (free/low cost) workshops to help people heal themselves and others, to let go of lives of quiet desperation and to become the amazing person they incarnated here to be. They will happen. At the moment any stress I am feeling is mostly focused on being unable to do this. The (potentially debilitating) stress I am feeling from being separated from my lady is being “managed.”
Like everyone reading this we all have our unique ways of maintaining some kind of optimal functioning during these dark days. The enormity of impending planetary transformation, the “Great Awakening” is too much for me to totally buy into. But I’m having a go.
Who could have anticipated this?
So, watch someone rather more famous than me here. Please watch Dr Phil, it’s worth 9 minutes of your time. Love to you all. Jack Stewart, April 17, 2020.