Over 30 years ago I attended an NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) conference in London. It was to change my life. How? Because I realised having been asked the above question for the first time, in the widest possible context, that I, not other people or fate, was actually in charge of my life!
It also makes my heart sing, despite the avalanche of nonsense and manipulation that passes for news these days, that in 2019 it is almost embarrassing to admit this. Despite the best efforts of the naysayers the idea that we have control of our lives persists. Hallelujah!
And if you are one of those rare souls who has ventured onto this page by accident then this is especially for you.
WE ARE IN CHARGE OF OUR LIVES!
Oh, where to begin…
Let us start with that rightly maligned corporate manipulator, Henry Ford. But aren’t even the “bad” guys capable of insight and wisdom? Of course they are.
“Whether you believe you can or you can’t, you’re right.”
Obvious isn’t it? Well if it isn’t please start to reflect on how much your beliefs influence everything you do. And if you end up doing something you regret or that which leads you to suffer see if you can track down the obvious or not so obvious belief that took you down that path.
Not convinced? Try this one:
“A 2002 article published in the American Psychological Association’s Prevention and Treatment by University of Connecticut psychology professor Irving Kirsch titled, “The Emperor’s New Drugs,” made some more shocking discoveries. He found that 80 percent of the effect of antidepressants, as measured in clinical trials, could be attributed to the placebo effect….Researchers all over the world have found that placebo treatments can stimulate real biological and physiological responses. Everything from changes in heart rate to blood pressure and even chemical activity in the brain. It’s been effective with a number of different ailments from arthritis, depression, fatigue, anxiety, Parkinson’s and more.”
From The Placebo Effect: Transforming Biology with Belief, by Arjun Walia, Collective Evolution, 20/7/13
It’s difficult, having woken up to this reality 30 years ago, to communicate the massive implications of this truth. Let us continue.
Most people have heard about the Law of Attraction, LOA. If you haven’t watch the film The Secret.
“Simply put, the Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. It is believed that regardless of age, nationality or religious belief, we are all susceptible to the laws which govern the Universe, including the Law of Attraction. It is the Law of Attraction which uses the power of the mind to translate whatever is in our thoughts and materialize them into reality. In basic terms, all thoughts turn into things eventually. If you focus on negative doom and gloom you will remain under that cloud. If you focus on positive thoughts and have goals that you aim to achieve you will find a way to achieve them with massive action.”
Taken from www.lawofattraction.com
The way the Law of Attraction has been presented is not perfect. Of course, to just sit back, visualise what you want and hey presto, it appears, is a huge oversimplification.
We are on a roll now.
Before I deliver the coup de grace (there’s probably a better phrase) let me share with you some of my experiences. I have been in the “Flow”, in “the Zone”, so many times I only really pay attention when I’m not. Cue parking places everywhere. Things that most people would imagine are inaccessible or don’t exist I naturally find. If you take it further I can recall influencing the weather, time and all kinds of “illness”. It’s also obvious to me, because I haven’t mastered this process, when I do get down or deflected, or life sends me a trauma or two, then shit really does happen. And of course, like everyone reading this, I have been socialised to see at best a half empty glass, at worst no glass at all. So when life gets hard I can be guilty of wallowing in it, which attracts more things I don’t want. Fortunately, having spent half of my life finding out how to turn all this around, it doesn’t last long. Boundless gratitude.
The number of people I have shared “miraculous” anecdotes with about clients recovering from all kinds of problems and my own experiences is legion. As may be obvious it is pointless trying to convince cynics and those plugged into the mainstream. Perhaps the most common response is: “That’s amazing, but seeing is believing, and I’m a realist.”
Well, to get to a place of believing is seeing requires an open mind, sometimes an iron will, and more often a determination to let go of a dozen things that no longer serve us. And I would add, finding credible teachers or therapists to facilitate the transition. Letting go of a lifetime’s conditioning is impossible without help. It really does boil down to this, what do you want and how much do you want it?
So it’s all very simple isn’t it, so why doesn’t it happen? It doesn’t happen on a regular and consistent basis, given the caveats above, because we are conditioned by our subconscious mind. Almost everything that we do is informed by our subconscious (hidden) mind. We don’t know what we don’t know. And for many people, even realising this fact, trying to unearth limiting beliefs is quite a challenge.
The next bit of this post will challenge you more than any other. Why? Because I find it challenging, and I have spent most of my career in pursuit of ways we can realise our angelic/superhuman status other than by taking Elon Musk’s microchip.
Most people have heard the expression we create our own reality and that in itself usually leaves many people cold. So how about this:
“Although we are indeed co-creating this experience alongside others, everything each of us experiences is only a reflection of our own thoughts and beliefs. What is more this is true for every single one of us.”
Sh*t Doesn’t Just Happen by Ian Lawton, p34.
I’m only halfway through the book and because this is such a challenging idea it would take more than a blog post to do justice to it. Besides which I would recommend Ian Lawton to you.
We therefore have a spectrum of beliefs. My personal pre-1980’s mind-set of life just happening to me. This is probably still a large minority view, maybe a majority I just don’t know. Moving along we then have the prospect of changing our beliefs to ones which serve us rather than ones we have internalised from authority and authority figures. The spectrum may blur a little when it passes through our subconscious but it ultimately leads to the place where we are in total control of our lives.
The idea also that the truth only emerges once we have let go of a lifetime’s distortions and traumas persists and I have explored this in previous posts.
Recently I have found myself in a situation where expectations of progress in a specific context have been my life raft. One of the ways I can personally deal with difficult situations is to write about them, and some of that writing never sees the light of day (the rest goes on here…). What I can say with complete certainty is that progress never stops, and I find myself in the very (amazingly improved) situation I wish to experience within a few days of reflection. God forbid, it is as if I am in control of my life.
Where I’m stuck at present is imagining I am influencing other people against their will, something I could never contemplate. The way round this of course is to ask their higher self and if part of me knows that it is in their best interests I will go for it. And the beauty is, that if it isn’t for them it won’t happen! However I would be disingenuous if I didn’t admit to subscribing to the universal truth that we all want to love and be loved.
Perhaps my personal greatest work-related gift is being a psychotherapist. Over the years I have worked with a huge variety of clients, some of which (their personality and their prejudices as opposed to their condition) would be very challenging to anyone. However as I have said repeatedly, and this is (or should be) almost any therapist’s mantra, if you don’t love your client go and do something else.
I suppose this piece would be incomplete without acknowledgement of the mystery of life. After all even Ian Lawton and others like him must surely welcome the challenges of life. Would anyone want to be so in control as to be God-like? In accepting that we are indeed God-like, the backdrop of our being in total control is that God his or herself wishes to learn and evolve. It’s slightly more complicated than that but we can’t learn and evolve unless we are challenged. And yes everyone reading this will have had challenges they rather would not have had to face, but you did and you came through them.
So in conclusion my dear friends, this is yet another post in which I hope you are becoming more and more disposed to accepting the “reality” of your angelic situation. And know you can let go of your personal tragedies and create a life for yourself which no longer requires you to suffer massively. How much I wish, sat here on Christmas Eve 2019, I could accelerate this realisation. I will have to be content with working with those closest to me and those who choose to come to me in a professional capacity. Or in 2020, my talks.
Whilst I still aspire to be part of the global movement involved in awakening humanity, if all I did in the foreseeable future was to help one person then my life would be complete.
Have a great Christmas, and start to create the kind of 2020 you hitherto only dreamt about.
Love and blessings to you all, Jack Stewart, Tuesday, 24 December 2019. Σε αγαπώ ελένη.