“The moment we begin to seek love, love begins to seek us. And to save us.”
Paulo Coelho, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept
“The heart is the most powerful source of electromagnetic energy in the human body, producing the largest rhythmic electromagnetic field of any of the body’s organs. The heart’s electrical field is about 60 times greater in amplitude than the electrical activity generated by the brain. This field, measured in the form of an electrocardiogram (ECG), can be detected anywhere on the surface of the body. Furthermore, the magnetic field produced by the heart is more than 100 times greater in strength than the field generated by the brain and can be detected up to 3 feet away from the body, in all directions.”
Institute of Heart Math
The “modality” I mostly use as a psychotherapist, the Healing Code, is based on the principle that love (unconditional) heals everything. Love emanates from the heart. The field referred to above, the magnetic field, is detected by instruments. My knowledge of physics is limited. However I have asked almost every client in the last few years to “sense” their own heart energy field. You can see the shape of it, the “torus”, in the diagram above. The Institute of Heart Math is a gift to the world but by necessity to have credibility amongst the “scientific” community it has to abide by certain norms.
Given that the mainstream scientific view is still rooted in 17th-century Newtonian physics, the idea that thought travels faster than the speed of light, the concept of subtle energies and even quantum physics itself all lie on the periphery, the fringe. The brilliant Stuart Wilde coined the term “fringe dwellers”, for those who go beyond the vested interest of “normal.”
People visit therapists for healing. By definition they are hurting, usually emotionally and mentally, but often physically too. I can’t recall too many clients bouncing into my practice glowing with health and joy. Of course modesty prevents me from saying that most of them leave like that. Ahem.
Try this yourself. Your heart has an energy field. Get a sense of it. Feel it, see it or even capture a thought. Get an idea, a “fix” of its size and boundaries. The smallest size it will be is the actual size of your heart. The field may go beyond the heart to fill your body space, or fill the room you are in, or even the house or building.
If you were a visitor from another planet or galaxy you wouldn’t have to hang around long here listening to contemporary music to get the impression that love has its downside. The first and most obvious barrier to loving people in a general way is that at least you will be taken advantage of. Loving someone more deeply runs the risk of an ultimate betrayal or they will pass.
Of late I have been having fascinating conversations with a close friend who admits, despite having been married (and bringing up an incredible young man), and having had many relationships, to never having been in love. If I told you this man has faced death many times and epitomises the word “macho” you may begin to understand him. But none of us can be neatly squeezed into conceptual or theoretical boxes.
We all, yes all of us, follow unconscious patterns. We all “run on rails” living our lives in predictable ways. As we become aware of ourselves, of how reality is constructed and how the life of quiet desperation can be easily discarded the unconscious patterns become conscious and we can let them go. We also realise running on rails is massively restricting and takes us on a pre-programmed path. A path, were we not subjected to a lifetime of negative conditioning, none of us would ever choose.
If we love ourselves, when we love another we are giving our true selves, uncontaminated by doubt, negativity and all the ills of the matrix. Of course how many of us truly love ourselves? You may rejoice in the knowledge that we can love and be loved without reaching the summit of unconditional love and acceptance of ourselves. We are-excepting those who are asleep-in a state of permanent evolution. Yet life deals us many blows.
“Listen to your heart. It knows all things, because it came from the Soul of the World and it will one day return there.”
It should be apparent that emotional pain closes and restricts the heart. For those of you who tried the experiment of sensing your heart torus I’m on rather safe ground if I suggest that a restricted energy field goes with having been hurt. I have no “data” or God forbid “evidence” to back up my next statement. And I couldn’t care less. Most people go through life with a restricted heart energy field. If you read the closing quote by the exceptional Paolo Coelho you may understand where I am coming from.
We encounter other people. We love them in varying degrees. Our love for our children is obviously different in kind than our love for our partners, or our companion animals, or our siblings and relatives. And I forgot love for our parents. However there is one person we encounter perpetually and cannot get away from.
So, we have a spectrum of attitudes and experiences relating to love. We are always becoming, which is another way of saying we get glimpses of our true, angelic nature. I have seen God through the eyes of an animal. Seeing God/the Divine/Eternity is a gift those of us who have fallen in love may experience. Have you ever made eye contact with a stranger and felt embarrassed?
Yes, never daring to fall in love, keeping ourselves “buttoned up” and filling our lives with distractions are very effective ways of restricting our heart torus.
I have met a number of people in my life who are fuelled by adrenaline. Being an adrenaline junkie does not stop you from falling in love but I would wonder how much it helps. Doesn’t it ultimately boil down to trust, because who wants to spend their lives perpetually frozen or distracted?
When two hearts beat as one. Symbiosis, complementarity, compatibility. For a permanent lasting relationship these characteristics may be essential. However we are not here on the earth plane to be comfortable in a rut, therefore differences are the grit in the oyster that create the pearl.
And how is it that the life of quiet desperation pursued by so many, the unsatisfying relationships, the mundane and the mediocre abound? How is it that some people find their soul mate (s) seemingly without effort? How is it that some people suffer the most appalling betrayal, injustice and deep, traumatic loss only to find around the corner lies redemption?
I’ll let you into another not-so-secret secret. It begins before we incarnate. However we can massively influence, and change, our “soul’s contract.” This is not a consensus view. Trauma and betrayal can take years off our lives. Redemption can make even the deepest hurt a mere page in our personal history. And another facet of the secret. Love seeks us when we are ready as Paolo suggests. Maybe God (see my last post) only wants the best for us, and all we have to do is be open.
For those of us “ahead of the curve” we have both a blessing and an obligation. The blessing is unconditional love, maybe the obligation is to discover or be given someone who it will transform.
I’ve read many accounts of life on the other side. Spending three years listening to Princess Diana’s description of Heaven/Nosso Lar/Summerland/the Afterlife creates an indelible impression. Almost all of us have glimpses of what life can be like, here on the rather dense but beautiful earth plane. In 1975 Roxy Music sang “Love is the Drug.”
Surely completion is having a relationship, here and now, which allows you, because you allow yourself to dream, to experience the highs of Nosso Lar. And maybe, just maybe we need never experience utter despair again.
Your heart energy field? Want to expand it? Just let it expand. It has no limits, it is infinite, watch it go, you have no limits.
I think I’m right in saying that all drugs have side effects. We have touched upon love’s side-effects. Well if you can take a pill to relieve the symptoms of a cold, muscular pain or for that matter any unwanted condition then you are taking a risk. When the stakes are higher…
“My heart is afraid that it will have to suffer, the boy told the Alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky. Tell your heart that the fear of suffering s worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with Eternity.”
Paulo Coelho, the Alchemist.
Feel free to experience my heart’s energy field; I once transmitted it in a controlled and scheduled way from the UK to a large gathering in Athens some years ago. Magical. Of course I was merely the spark that ignited the potential of the gathering. Είμαι ερωτευμένος-η μαζί σου ελένη.