To endure, to grin and bear it, to line up the next ordeal.
But I’m growing surely? Unless we learn the lesson we are destined to repeat it…
Can we become addicted to pain and problems? We all know, it’s maybe us, that the biggest and hardest lessons are the ones we cannot avoid. But how many of us are running patterns or programmes, mostly out of conscious awareness? Do you live life permanently on the edge? Is this a good thing? Are you addicted to the adrenaline rush which proves (to whom?) you are alive? Can you ‘switch off?’ What will happen if you do? Will humanity or all sentient beings perish if you have an off day? Is being ill or unable to properly function a necessary altered state from routine ones? Is being out of it for a while a way of getting sympathy? Do you have a part of you that sabotages your efforts?
Have you chosen the most difficult path?
There are many processes which can resolve almost all of the above. Cue the therapists and the light bulb joke.
If 90% of our behaviour is informed by our subconscious, then all of us, no exceptions, are ‘running’ old patterns mostly learned from childhood. The prefixes ‘sub’ or ‘un’ applied to conscious reveal this truth. Here’s a clue. Are you happy with your life? Does your body, even your appearance suggest all is not well within? How about your energy levels, your mental sharpness, your voice energy, your stamina…? What would happen if you optimised all these, and drew knowing glances or even compliments from others about them? Are you present when in the company of family, friends and ‘others?’ What would happen if no one ever needed to feel sorry for you?
We live in a world of possibility, no one can rescue everyone else. Believe me I know.
The last word. When life does take us to the very edge, we need all our strength and resources to come through and avoid ending up at the bottom of the abyss. Don’t waste your life energy on things you CAN change.
Jack Stewart, last one, from Skiathos.
How many psychotherapists does it take to change a light bulb? One, but the bulb has to want to change.